I Has a Bucket… Monday, Jan 24 2011 

I do in fact own a bucket.  It currently resides on my front patio and is filled with various car-washing materials that I never use.  But this is not the bucket to which I refer.  I refer to my bucket list, which I have and often refer to as my 30 Before 30 or simply as The List.  It seems as neglected as my car-washing bucket lately.

It is certainly arguable that The List is not a true bucket list, as this term refers to a list of things you do before you “kick the bucket”.  I’m sure after I turn thirty in five years The List will segue into a longer list of things to do before I die, but for now I just have my 30 things to do before I turn 30.

I am still plugging away at #10, reading all the books I own and haven’t read.  This task would be much easier if I stopped buying books.  I was recently sick and spent my time watching the entire second season of The Tudors on Netflix which then put me in the mood for some Boleyn-Tudor drama, so I purchased three Phillipa Gregory books.  I also picked up The Lady Most Likely which features two of my favorite Romance novelists, Julia Quinn and Eloisa James.  I’m also not too proud to admit that I couldn’t resist buying a book I came across in Barnes and Noble just yesterday called The Secret Life of Elizabeth Tudor, Vampire Slayer. These books will, of course, be added to my list of books to read.  I’m currently reading The Historian by Elizabeth Kostova and I am fully engrossed.  It’s a very well-written novel about a girl and her father’s search for Vlad Dracula, who they believe is still alive today.  It reminds me a bit of The DaVinci Code in the sense that they go all over Europe following clues, only this time the clues are not part of an ancient secret society but simply clues they discover in the historical records.  I plan to follow this book with Bram Stoker’s Dracula.  And in case you were wondering, no I do not have a weird obsession with vampire fiction as much as my current choices of books may lead you do believe.

#14 (Presenting at a national conference) is well within my reach.  I should hear back next month whether a proposal I submitted for the National AHEAD Conference has been accepted.  If it is, I will be presenting this July!!

I’ve been trying to get back into the habit of going to the gym.  I am now a 24 Hour Fitness member (still trying to cancel my Bally membership, but they are making it difficult) where I am accomplishing #18, taking a Kick Boxing class.  Kick boxing is not what it used to be.  So I’m taking two different classes with my friend Ang that are sort of like kick boxing.  The first is called shadowbox that focuses more on the core and arms (lots of punching and doing pushups).  The second is called Turbo Kick that is much more aerobic with lots of punching and kicking and jumping about.  I am finding both a little difficult since most in the class have done it many times and know the different moves, but I have a hard time keeping up; I get lost somewhere in punch-jab-punch-kick back-kick forward-punch-jab-uppercut that the instructor is doing at a rapid speed.  I think the more me and Ang do them the better we will get and therefore the more we will get out of it.  Once I feel I’ve mastered the class I will check it off The List!

I’ve also made some progress toward #30, running the Chapman 5k.  Some of you faithful readers (caughKatecaugh) may remember that I did in fact participate in the Chapman 5k last October but decided not to count it until I actually run the 5k completely.  Well, I’m getting back in the game and will be running a 5k on February 19th.  There is also a good possibility that I will be running the YMCA Mud Run at Camp Pendleton in June.  I’m hoping the more races I participate in, the better I will become!  I’ll be ready in October for the Chapman 5k this year and I will be able to check it off The List!

Things that go bump… Wednesday, Oct 20 2010 

I haven’t posted mostly because there has been nothing to post.  I’ve hit a bit of a bump in the road.  Maybe more than one.

That job with my own office seems impossible every day.  Rejection is always difficult.  But, in the end it has made me grateful for the job I do have.  My boss really is quite wonderful, I’m working full time with benefits, and I’m getting my master’s degree for free.  There are days I want to rip out my hair and scream, but who doesn’t feel that way?  I think my real problem is that I would be happiest not working at all, no matter what the job is.  My dream would be to become a stay at home mom.

My other bump is really internal.  After my wedding, I gave up on all the progress I made getting prepared for my 5k.  I run it in less than a week and I am now unable to run even one mile.  I’m not going to give up on participating in the 5k, but I’ve made the decision not to count it toward The List.  I still have 5 years to complete the list, and I will run a 5k before I’m 30.

I blame school for halting my progress toward reading my list of books.  I’ve also begun working on a proposal to present some of my work at the AHEAD conference.  The proposal is due this Monday, but the conference is not until July.  Hopefully over the winter holiday I will be able to get through a few of those books!

I went to Alaska!! Sunday, Aug 15 2010 

I’ve been a bit remiss in getting this post finished, but here it is.

My husband and I took a non-traditional approach to our honeymoon.  Rather than spend it relaxing on a warm beach, we went on a cruise to ALASKA!!  This completed #7 on The List!  Certain aspects of the honeymoon have been removed from this narrative for the purpose of privacy and decency.  And because no one want to hear about it :)

Day Zero – Seattle, WA

After waking up at an ungodly hour, we were picked up by Jake’s dad to drive us to the airport.  This was uneventful, but I felt it necessary to include explanation about how we arrived to Seattle.  I’m not sure why.  But anyways, we arrived in Seattle at about 9:30am and took a taxi to the ship’s dock.  Neither Jake nor I had ever been on a cruise before, so we had no idea what to expect.  I did not, however, expect the terminal to look like a giant warehouse with plastic dividers to designate separate areas.  But that’s what it was.  We gave them our luggage, waited in uncomfortable plastic chairs for about an hour, and then were finally able to board our ship – the Oosterdam (part of the Holland America fleet).

Since the rooms wouldn’t be ready until later in the afternoon, they ushered us up to the Lido deck where a buffet lunch was awaiting.  I will be referencing the Lido deck quick a bit, because this was where they always had food.  And so we began our week-long food binge.  It didn’t help that our room was only one floor below the Lido.  We wandered around, exploring the different areas of the ship.  It included, among other things, a library, spa, two pools, and more bars and lounges then was strictly necessary.  We made some spa appointments and then booked our shore excursions!  After unpacking in our teeny-tiny room we spent much of the early evening on the top deck (the tenth to be exact) to have a couple drinks and watch the ship pull out of the port.  The evening ended with a delicious four course meal in the main dining room and a dosage of Dramamine (the only time we had to take it the whole trip)!

Note to Californians: the motion of the ship in the water can feel like an earthquake.

Mt. Rainier - it's a volcano...with snow!

Hey look! It's Seattle!

Day One – Out to Sea

Nothing happens when you are out to sea.  The ship makes a valiant attempt to provide onboard activities like Bingo, trivia games, wine tasting, and cooking demonstrations.  I may have been tempted by the wine, but Jake doesn’t like it.  I also would have been very interested in the cooking demonstration, but they were demonstrating how to cook fish, which is just gross.  In the end, we spent most of the day napping and eating.  We did wander out on the promenade deck for a short while, but it was quite chilly, so we meandered back to our room for more napping.  That night was the first of two formal nights, so I got to get all dolled up in my red cocktail dress and enjoy another four course dinner!

Me and the hubby at the back of the ship

Mr. and Mrs. - all dolled up!

Day Two – Cruising Glacier Bay

After a lethargic morning of more eating and napping, we staked out an early seat up on the top deck.  I brought my book and Jake brought his PSP and we sat in companionable silence for some time while we waited for the ship to reach Glacier Bay.  It was the perfect day – all sunshiny but still cool.  Jake had his PSP and I had a romance novel, so we sat in companionable silence for a bit until the ship reached the first of the glaciers sometime in the afternoon.  People started cramming the decks by then, but we had our cozy little spot still so it was nice!  We took turns going down to the Lido deck to bring up food while the other reserved our spot.

After a couple hours of glacier viewing we returned to our room to get changed for, you guessed it, another four course dinner.  Afterwards we went to one of their nightly shows – this one was a comedian whose name I don’t remember.  He was a very “clean” comedian – not dirty or racist jokes.  All of his material was centered on cruises and things relating to cruises which we both find fairly humorous.  Not the funniest comedy show ever, but still pretty damn funny.

A glacier - I don't know the name. Maybe the John Hopkins Glacier?

Day Three – Juneau, AK

We cruised into Juneau sometime in the early morning on Wednesday of our journey.  Jake and I had an excursion booked for noon, so had a leisurely breakfast before heading to shore.  We found out right away that Juneau relies heavily on tourists who want to unload a ton of cash on useless souvenirs and jewelry.  The streets surrounding the port were lined with nothing but novelty shops and jewelry stores specializing in every kind of precious stone you can imagine.  I wouldn’t mind as much if every store didn’t carry the exact same things.  I did find a pair of earrings with a stone commonly called northern lights – it’s a dark stone with prisms of every color in it.  Very pretty, in my opinion.

Around noon we went to the meeting point for our shore excursion, which was a hike to view the Mendenhall Glacier.  It was exhausting, but amazing!  We went about 3.5 miles up a mountain (and then the 3.5 miles back of course) – the tour guide said it was the farthest he had taken a group that far in over a year!!  The view was spectacular!  We returned back to the ship afterwards and took some quick showers before heading the spa for hot stone massages!  Scheduling the massages right after the hike was Jake’s stroke of genius.  Ordering room service for dinner afterward was mine.  It was the perfect day!

I would guess this was about 2.5 miles into the hike - Mendenhall glacier is behind us

One of the natural waterfalls created by the Mendenhall Glacier and some ice chunks in the water

Day Four – Sitka, AK

Sitka was our favorite of the three Alaskan ports we visited.  Because of the ports, the ships could not actually go up to the docks directly.  They anchored out in the harbor and ferried the passengers to shore using “tenders”.  These were actually just some of the lifeboats – which was comforting because it meant that the lifeboats were functioning.  So we went to the shore and meandered about for a short while.  The stores here were much better compared to Juneau – most of the items were made and sold by the locals.  We did a shore excursion here as well, but this time it was cultural tour.  This turned out to be a bus ride to three cultural locations within walking distance of the port, so we wandered off and left the group after the first stop.  Apparently when on a cruise, “cultural tour” roughly translates to “old people”.  We did get to see the local museum chock full of interesting native artifacts as well as the St. Michaels Cathedral.  I always marvel at the amazing amount of wealth held by some cathedrals – the church was, after all, one of the greatest patrons of the arts back in the day.  Anyways, the art in there was incredible!

After we took the little “tender” back to the ship we got dolled up again for the second formal evening.  This one was different though, because we would not be going to the main dining room.  Instead, we had reservations at the uber fancy Pinnacle Grill.  I had steak and creme brulee – it was amazing!

St. Michaels Cathedral

A view of the apse of St. Michaels Cathedral

Day Five – Ketchikan, AK

There isn’t much to say about Ketchikan.  It’s a pretty cute town and the shops were decent.  We didn’t plan an excursion for that day, so we mostly just wandered around.  There were horse-drawn trollies, which is neat.  I did find a cache of Sarah Palin paraphernalia – all on clearance.  Apparently she’s not too popular with the people of Ketchikan…or with most people in general.


Day Six – Victoria, British Columbia

Victoria was, by far, our favorite part of the entire trip!  Unfortunately it was also where we spend the least amount of time.  The ship got there about 6pm on Saturday (I got a manicure/pedicure to kill time in the afternoon).  We had a pub tour booked for our excursion, so we went strait to meet up for that once on shore.  Our bus driver was late, finally pulling into the lot like a bat out of hell and screeching to a stop.  We loaded on the bus and he promptly turned to the unsuspecting lady behind him, hands her his iPhone and sheet of paper and says “here, call Spinnakers and tell them we’re on our way.”  It set the tone for the entire trip – hilarious!!  We went to three different pubs – Spinnakers, The Penny Farthing, and the Fernwood Inn.  We met a couple from Oklahoma who chatted with – they were an absolute hoot!  By the time the bus driver (his name was Francis, by the way) dropped us off at the ship we were both pretty tipsy, but feeling good!

We’ve both decided that we need to plan a trip to Victoria so that we can see more of it!

Parliament building in Victoria

Do we look tipsy? Because we are.

Day Seven – Seattle, WA

So sad to see the trip come to an end!  Starting at 7:30am, we were ushered off the ship in groups – ours disembarking at 8:15am.  We were back in the giant warehouse, meandering through slightly hungover and very tired.  Having no idea about customs, we made the mistake of not filling out a claims thingy – I figured I didn’t have anything to claim, so we didn’t have to.  WRONG!  We were yelled at and one lady tried to send  Jake in a different direction than me until I yelled back at her “excuse me but that’s my husband so I would appreciate it if I could go with him!!”  Right before I broke down and cried we found a nice lady who said “You look nervous, why don’t you come that way.”  I thought they were going to search me for drugs or something, but she just found a way for us to skip the line.  Nice lady.

So we got out of the warehouse and on to our tour.  Yes, we booked a tour of Seattle – because what else were we to do in Seattle when our flight didn’t leave until 5:30pm?  We drove through Pioneer Square, went up the Space Needle, and spent over an hour at Pike Place Market.  It would have been more enjoyable had we not been utterly exhausted.  We were dropped off at the airport where I enjoyed the free WiFi by watching episodes of Angel on my netbook to kill time.  We finally got home sometime after 8pm.

The first Starbucks - at Pike Place

All in all, a great trip!!  But we were definitely ready to just be home!

Three Weddings and a Vuvuzela Friday, Aug 6 2010 

Sometimes in life, things work out in a way that can never be planned.  They just happen and things fall into place naturally.  This is how I feel about the weddings of three of the five TUBFE ladies.  It seems very appropriate the three of us would get married in the same year, as it was the three of us that first started to band together; T, Fiction & Sanity, and myself (Mrs. Hofeldt).

I will state, because I feel it needs stating, that although I was the last of us three to get married, I was the first to get engaged.  But like I said before, things have a way of happening naturally.  Each wedding was so different from the next, perfect for each bride.  So here is the story of our three weddings…

The Winter Wedding of Fiction and Sanity:

F&S met her husband at bible study (proper young lady that she is…lols).  After spending quite a number of months apart while he worked on the East Coast (whoever invented Skype is a genious) he finally returned to his waiting girlfriend.  Those two wasted no time and were engaged in the Fall of 2009 and wasted even less time in setting a date for January 2nd, 2010.  This left her only four months to plan her perfect winter wedding.

Planning for the wedding was aided mostly by her mother and T – who both helped her through the nightmare that is centerpieces.  Her wedding was held at the country club in our home town.  A blanket of snow coated the entire town, including the sprawling golf course visible through the wall to wall windows during the ceremony and reception.  Sparkling white twinkle lights wrapped in shimmery organza fabric were hung along beams, small trees, and a hand-made wood arch.  It truly felt like a winter wonderland.  The bridesmaids wore fluttery black dresses adorned with a silver snowflake and a silvery grey pashmina.  The bride wore a stunning ball gown with beads sewn into the bodice.  The entire ceremony was like a wintery dream, all white, silver, and black.  By the time we began the reception, twilight had fallen and the snow outside seemed to cast bright blue lights onto the guests inside.  The four tiered cake (or was it five?) was like a frozen snowdrift, coated in white frosting and covered with sugar crystals.  All in all, it was a perfect winter wedding!

The Party Wedding of T:

T originally met her husband in high school – she was the cradle robbing senior dating the sophomore J.  They parted ways while T was in college, but realized in the end that they were meant for each other!  With him traveling for his job as a lineman, their time together was piecemeal and sometimes brief.  But he found time to propose her in the Summer of 2009!  The date was soon set for the following summer on July 3rd, 2010.

I like to think it all began with the dress.  The summer she got engaged, T and F&S visited me in California, where T and I tried on dress after dress!  In the end, T fell in love with a gorgeous and fun gown that hugged her curves on top and had a flirty skirt made of layers of mesh fabric.  She found the dress back in Washington and began planning her blue and lime green wedding!  It was held at Mission Ridge, the local ski lodge up in the mountains.  The outdoor setting was stunning, and so appropriate for the couple!  The bridesmaids wore aqua-blue dresses and added ivory pashminas after the ceremony.  Even T’s dog Bear made it the wedding as the bearer, wearing a tiny little tux!  Their many tiered white cake (I never actually counted) was adorned with little bursts of lime green and blue, like little fireworks.  Her mother provided a traditional Norwegian cake as well.  However, the bride and groom cut into the small beer flavored cake decorated with camouflage!  After the ceremony, the party really started and we all danced until midnight!

My Dream Wedding:

I met my husband the summer after my freshman year of college.  My friends didn’t like the guy I was seeing at the time so they introduced me to Jake!  It took me about a month to come to my senses and ditch the loser for Jake, but I eventually saw the awesomeness that was Jake.  We moved in together after dating for six months (best decision I ever made) knowing we would eventually get married.  I finally got the ring on April 13, 2008 when Jake proposed in front of his family!  It was another year before we set the date for July 22, 2010.

I technically only had two years to plan my perfect wedding – but if I am being honest with myself I began planning it when I was in Kindergarten and my Grandmother made me a wedding gown to play dress up in.  I planned a very traditional wedding aboard the yacht Newport Princess.  Everything was white and black, with touches of pink.  Jake wore a classic tux (with coattails) with a calla lily boutonniere.  I wore a strapless Casablanca gown with a beaded bodice and an a-line skirt covered in Chantilly lace.  It was the perfect balance of cute and elegance!  The look was completed by the veil made by my maid of honor, F&S, which used the lace from her own mother’s veil.  The bridesmaids wore simple black jersey dresses with pink sashes around the waist.  The cake was three tiers covered in smooth white butter cream with a simple pink swirl design on the top and bottom layers; the whole thing was topped with a framed picture from the day Jake proposed.  Everything was beyond perfect!  It was the dream wedding I had always imagined having – beautifully simple!

So now I can check off #1 on The List at last – I have married Jake!  Now I really truly am Mrs. Hofeldt.

Note:  I know I never explained about the vuvuzela.  Suffice it say, I found it in the trunk of my car the other day and it made me smile.

Like Christmas in July Wednesday, Jun 16 2010 

Every time I stop to think about July I get this really giddy feeling.  It feels like July has been this distant and untouchable thing that would never arrive.  The events of July have been intangible to me almost to point of me not really believing they will happen at all.  I would compare it to high school graduation when you’re in the 8th grade.  You know its coming and you have begun thinking about it, but the thought of it actually happening has not started sinking in.  For me, July has sunk in.

I refer, of course, to my wedding to Jake (#1 on the The List).  Him and I have been together for four and half years and engaged for two and now the wedding is finally happening and I will be his wife!  I have remained remarkably calm (with only a few hysterics) through the process, in my opinion.  No jitters or cold feet for this girl!  Marrying Jake will be the easiest decision I will ever make, because him and I are meant to be together.  I could not imagine how my life would be without him.

But on to more frivolous details!  Our office is slowly being taken over by wedding supplies, including a sizable stash of various dark chocolate goodies for the wedding favors and a ridiculous amount of pink ribbon.  Plans to assemble the favors have yet to be determined, but I intend to entice my friends with wine and baked goods in exchange for their help.  I still have quite a bit left on my to-do list, but nothing too overwhelming thankfully.  Probably the best de-stressor has been the dress fitting I had a week ago.  My first fitting in February was depressing as the dress was too small – but now they actually have to take the dress in two inches!!  YAY!  Now I only have to maintain my current weight, which is much easier than trying to lose!

Of course, July is more than just my wedding.  It is also the wedding of T in just over two weeks!  I’m so excited for her and I cannot wait to fly up there and be with TUBFE again!!  So July contains many reasons for celebration!!  Its like Christmas in July – so much to look forward to!

I think all of the wedding and love in the air has been inspiring to me because I have resumed work on my romance novel (#9 on the The List).  My novel is actually the first in a planned five-book series.  Each book is loosely based off of the real-life romances of the five TUBFE ladies, but set in Regency London.  The first book is the story of my own romance with Jake!

I have basically scrapped my original prologue and am working on a new one that I think will provide a much better beginning to my story.  My original prologue was almost all just description of my heroine’s background – which is probably boring to read.  Instead of description, I have decided to play out an actual scene from her childhood that will provide the necessary back story.  I will also need to fix the first chapter, which just has not been segueing the way I want it to.  The general storyline of the first half of the book has already been laid out so once I get a good beginning; the rest should just begin to flow.  In theory.

Just Bragging… Friday, Jun 4 2010 

I ran 3.25 miles today.

That is all.

House of Books Thursday, Jun 3 2010 

I’m not exactly sure how I accumulated quite so many books.  More importantly, I’m not sure how I accumulated so many without reading them.  But I did somehow and so it is now my quest to actually read them all.

I have completed my list of books that will fulfill #10 on The List (read all the books that I own and haven’t read).  It’s a bit longer than I had anticipated – and I didn’t even include my non-fiction books or my collection of Native American Romance novels that I inherited from my Aunt.  Those can be accomplished after I turn 30.

So here is the epic list of books (divided into six categories):

Literature (also known as Books You May Have Read in High School)

  • Dracula – Bram Stoker
  • Tales and Poems of Edgar Allen Poe
  • Sense and Sensibility, Emma, Pride and Prejudice, Mansfield Park, Northanger Abbey, Persuasion, Lady Susan – Jane Austen
  • Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde – R.L. Stevenson
  • The Age of Innocence – Edith Wharton
  • The Phantom of the Opera – Gaston Leroux
  • I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings – Maya Angelou
  • Wuthering Heights – Emily Bronte
  • The Great Gatsby– F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • The Count of Monte Cristo – Alexander Dumas
  • The Short Stories, The Sun Also Rises, For Whom the Bell Tolls, Old Man and the Sea –  Ernest Hemingway
  • The Hunchback of Notre Dame – Victor Hugo
  • Gone With the Wind – Margaret Mitchell
  • The Bell Jar – Sylvia Plath
  • Anna Karenina – Leo Tolstoy
  • Collected Works of Oscar Wilde
  • Breakfast at Tiffany’s – Truman Capote
  • Les Liaisons Dangereuses – Pierre Choderlos de Laclos

Fiction (or, Books Often Found On Sale at Barnes & Noble)

  • Dances with Wolves – Michael Blake
  • Digital Fortress – Dan Brown
  • Running with Scissors – Augusten Burroughs
  • The Black Dahlia – James Ellroy
  • White Oleander – Janet Fitch
  • Memoirs of a Geisha – Arthur Golden
  • Le Divorce – Diane Johnston
  • Almost Transparent Blue – Ryu Murakami
  • My Sister’s Keeper – Jodi Picoult
  • The Wedding – Nicholas Sparks

Fantasy Fiction

  • Interview with a Vampire, The Vampire Lestat, Queen of the Damned, The Tale of the Body Thief – Anne Rice
  • Reign of Shadows, Shadow War, Realm of Light – Deborah Chester
  • Brida – Paulo Coelho
  • Stardust – Neil Gaiman
  • Confessions of an Ugly Stepsister, Mirror Mirror, Son of a Witch, A Lion Among Men – Gregory Maguire
  • Out of Avalon – Jennifer Roberson
  • The Road to Avalon – Joan Wolf

Historical Fiction (Books that Make Beth Want to Be Born in Another Time)

  • Nefertiti – Nick Drake
  • The Birth of Venus – Sarah Dunant
  • The Tsarina’s Daughter – Carolly Erickson
  • Marie Antoinette – Antonia Fraser
  • The Lost Memoirs of Jane Austen – Syrie James
  • Dark Angels – Karleen Koen
  • The Historian – Elizabeth Kostovo
  • The Mark of Zorro – Johnston McCulley
  • Katherine – Anya Seton
  • Trail of Tears – Frances Patton Statham


  • Will You Miss Me When I’m Gone – The Carter Family
  • Dreams from my Father – Barack Obama
  • The Journals of Sylvia Plath
  • Reading Lolita in Tehran – Azat Nafisi
  • Natasha – Natalie Wood

Romance (lets be honest – Porn for Women)

  • Runaway Duke – Julie Anne Long
  • Captive of My Desires – Johanna Lindsey
  • Ashes in the Wind – Kathleen E. Woodwiss
  • The Prince of Tides – Pat Conroy
  • Viscount in the Bedroom – Gayle Callen
  • My Wicked Pirate – Rona Sharon

Wow – that’s a lot of books!

The Good, The Bad, and The WTF Tuesday, Jun 1 2010 

The Good: I’ve already updated my previous post with what I’ve completed off my Wedding To-Do list!

The Bad: The Adviser position that applied for?  The one I wanted very badly and would get me that job with my own office (#24 on The List)?  The one I was sure I would be so good at?  Well the new adviser’s started today – I didn’t even get an interview.  I’m trying very hard not to wallow in self-pity.  After all, I still have a very good job as the Department Assistant in a respectable (although often forgotten) office and my boss loves me.  We are going to make plans to increase my work load and get me involved in more tutoring programs!  So I’m trying to be okay with this – I still have lots of time to get a higher position.  I’m still very young, so I should not be too hard on myself.

The WTF: What bothers me the most about the Adviser position is that I have been asking my co-worker (who works in Advising) about the position from the beginning – just so I knew where they were at in the process, be she never told me that had already interviewed.  I’ve worked with this woman for almost four years and she could not even do me that courtesy.  She said nothing to me about the position being filled until she walked up to me this morning and announced that she was going to go meet the new advisers who started today.  WTF?

Much To-do About Nuptials Monday, May 31 2010 

I have discovered recently that I have a compulsive need to make lists.  This blog is a product of this need – namely the need to make a list of all of my important goals that I have set for myself.  Within each item on The List lies a multitude of lists waiting to be created.

In order to accomplish #1, Marrying Jake, I decided I need to make a list of all things I still have left to accomplish for the upcoming wedding – only 52 days away!

Updated 6/1/10:
Updated 6/8/10:
Updated 6/24/10:

  1. Find my wedding book – it has all my receipts and important information in it (I’m sure it’s in the living room somewhere, or maybe the office). I found it underneath the box of extra invitation stuff!
  2. Schedule the dress fitting (and hope and pray it fits so that I don’t have to pay to have it let out). THE DRESS FIT!!  They have to take it in 2 inches – I have another fitting in two weeks! Had another fitting – still fits!!  Final fitting is scheduled for one week before the wedding!
  3. Set up a meeting with the wedding coordinator, Allison, to go over the final details of the wedding and pick the colors for the linens. I will be going there next week! I met with her and all is settled – just have to give her the final payment and the final guest count in two weeks!
  4. Begin inputting all RSVP’s in my Guest Count excel sheet. Done!! Just waiting for more to arrive!  Everyone has until July 1st – then I start calling!
  5. Put together the candles and lanterns for the center pieces. Done!!  I did one as a model – and then decided I wanted to keep going.  I’m very pleased with the final product!
  6. Put together the decor pieces going on the alter. Everything is in a box and ready to go!!
  7. Have meeting with the officiator (already scheduled for June 8th). We met with Susanna yesterday!  She will be sending us an outline of the ceremony and some suggestions based on what we talked about in the next couple weeks!
  8. Put together the music list and send it to the DJ. In progress – no where near done I’ve completed the list and sent it off to the DJ – still haven’t heard back from them
  9. Arrange rides to/from the airport for out of town guests.
  10. Help Angela make and mail out Bridal Shower Invites. Mailed out!!
  11. Create a complete schedule for the week of the wedding and double check that all things are being taken care of by someone (to avoid last minute scrambling the day of).
  12. Double check with each bridesmaid that they have dress/shoes/sash for the wedding day. Just have to get 2 sashes to the girls!
  13. Finish designing the cake and complete order (need to buy black ribbon to take to the bakers as well).
  14. Finish making the cake topper. Finished!! It’s perfect! No little people – but I love it!
  15. Double check order with the florist that we have all bouquets, corsages, and boutonnieres being made. All is good with the flowers :)
  16. Find pictures of the hairstyle I want and make-up look.
  17. Double check times with the photographer and add this to the schedule.
  18. Buy disposable cameras for the tables (will need 12). Haven’t purchased these yet – but I plan and decreasing it to 6.
  19. Schedule a final hair appointment with Jeff for the weekend before the wedding to trim my hair.
  20. Sit down with Jake and decide on the final menu. I decided for Jake and I – he was pleased.
  21. Buy the candy for the favors and put them together. DONE!!!  With the help of Angela and Jamie I have more than enough for all guests!!
  22. Get the Marriage License.

Ok, so I think that’s everything.  I will probably be updating this post as I accomplish things on the list – checking things off lists is a good way to feel accomplished :)

I now have begin another list: the grocery list.  This is not nearly as exciting.

If you have to ask…you wouldn’t understand. Sunday, May 30 2010 

I have a t-shirt from high school – I’m not entirely sure how it ended up in my possession in the first place.  It’s the Cross-Country t-shirt from my junior or sophomore year – but I never ran Cross-Country.  In fact, I avoided any kind of activity that involved running or things related to running (such as excessive walking).  The t-shirt has a big X-C on the front and on the back it reads “If you have to ask…you wouldn’t understand.”

I finally understand!!

So lately I’ve been working on preparing for my 5K in October.  I realize it’s a bit early to begin training for an event that is more than four months away – but I figured that given the poor state of my fitness, I would need a bit more time.  So I’ve been doing the treadmill running as often as I can and I’ve recently attained an accomplishment that I feel warrants posting:

I ran two full miles (without stopping)!!  I realize this is not exactly impressive to most – but considering I used be winded to the point of collapsing after one lap around a track, this is exciting!  After receiving some pretty amazing praise from my best friend (who’s blog, Fiction and Sanity, you should read) I decided I should post this accomplishment on my blog – especially considering it is related to #30 on The List (running the Chapman 5K).

I’m seriously considering replacing #30 with a higher goal – possible finishing a half marathon eventually.  We shall see – for now I just want to finish the 5K and then we’ll see how it goes.

Tomorrow I begin to wean myself off the treadmill and will attempt some actual running and see how that goes.  I tend to get winded a lot faster when running for real versus on a treadmill.  I wonder why that is?

In other news, I have begun reading a new book.  And by new, I mean that I purchased it about 2 years ago and am just now getting around to reading it.  I still have yet to complete my list of books that will fulfill #10 (read all the books I own and haven’t read) but have plans to do so on Monday since I have the day off work.  But in the meantime I have begun reading The Memory Keeper’s Daughter.  Both my boss and my co-worker have read it and say they enjoyed it, but it’s not the normal kind of book I read.  It’s a grown up book – something you might discuss in a book club.  So far, I’m enjoying it – the author is very good with imagery and creating an atmosphere that you can almost feel.  The story itself has yet to fully begin unfolding (I’m only a couple chapters in).  The premise is basically a doctor who delivers his own twins during a blizzard.  The son is perfectly healthy, but he recognizes the daughter as having Downs Syndrome.  He sends his nurse to take the daughter to an asylum and tells his wife the daughter died during birth.  The nurse, unable to leave the little baby in the care home, takes the girl to raise herself.  According the back of the book, it will follow these parallel lives, showing the eventual repercussions of these series of decisions.  I’m sufficiently intrigued and shall continue to enjoy reading.

I’ve decided today that I need to make yet another list.  #1 (Marry Jake) is less than 2 months away from being accomplished (YAY) and every day I find myself tallying in my head all of the little things I still need to complete before the big day.  So, sometime in the next week I need to make the effort to sit down and write out a to-do list of all of the things I still need to finish.  Currently the list includes scheduling a final fitting for my dress, putting together the center pieces, and tallying up the RSVP’s that I have received so far.  All in all, things for the wedding are pretty much taken care of!  I’ve been doing so much planning over the last two years, I’m just ready for it to happen so I can be married to Jake already!  Plus, I’m super excited about the Honeymoon in Alaska!!

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